Still, choose today →

Published June 7, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 7  ·  , ,

Back at the start of January I mentioned, “Indeed. If it is to my advantage tomorrow, it is much more so today.” My touch phrase, “choose today” for 2023 continues to be a poignant reminder. I’ve now written it at the bottom of every journal entry this year, it often comes to mind in moments when I most need it, and it always reminds me of this:

Stick to what’s in front of you—idea, action, utterance. This is what you deserve. You could be good today. But instead you choose tomorrow.

~ Marcus Aurelius

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“If it is to my advantage tomorrow, it is much more so today.” is a direct quote of Epictetus. Aurelius was born shortly after Epictetus’s death. But Aurelius makes a point of thanking one of his teachers, Rusticus saying in part, “[…] And for introducing me to Epictetus’s lectures–and loaning me his own copy.”

Which leads me to the first thing “choose today” reminds me of each day: Knowledge, and in particular wisdom, are gained through others by seeking out those who have something you wish to learn. These people which I’m mentioning lived thousands of years ago. Others (in other traditions from other regions of the world in other centuries) have separately discovered these same ideas, which makes it clear to me that these ideas are worth considering.

The second thing “choose today” reminds me of is to be forward-looking. Certainly I want to observe and consider my past (and the past of others!) but I should be looking towards the future. If something feels urgent, then where exactly is that sense of urgency coming from, and is the urgency real? If something feels important— same questions. If something feels _insert_whatever_here_— same questions. And then, what can I choose today?

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Niko Pal | Developing Yourself As A Coach →

Published June 6, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 6

On Castbox.fm — Niko Pal | Developing Yourself As A Coach

What are the challenges and approaches to developing oneself as an effective and compassionate Parkour coach?

Insights into balancing personal growth and teaching are shared by an experienced Parkour coach.

I like to say that not all athletes are good coaches, and not all good coaches are good athletes. And one of the things you run into, and this is also a huge part of what my talk was about is the ego. And these high skilled athletes oftentimes can run into this perspective of working with people who maybe aren’t as like, super interested in learning Parkour… If you’re trying to help people, and if you’re trying to help people grow, which is kind of the role that a coach plays, then you really got to step aside from that ego.

~ Niko Pal (2:16)

The conversation centers on the experiences and philosophies of an experienced Parkour coach. It explores the significance of self-awareness, ego, and intention in coaching, emphasizing that coaches must align their methods with their students’ goals rather than imposing their own perspectives. Niko discusses the theoretical aspects of coaching, particularly the importance of understanding why one coaches and what outcomes are desired for students. The pitfalls of ego in coaching are highlighted, particularly among high-skilled athletes transitioning to coaching.

Challenges like burnout, injury, and the loss of passion due to overcommitment are discussed as common obstacles for coaches. Niko advocates for developing support systems, setting boundaries, and maintaining a balance between coaching and personal training. The value of mentorship is also emphasized, with the speaker reflecting on their own lack of a mentor and their desire to support others in avoiding similar struggles. Ultimately, the conversation underscores the need for coaches to connect authentically with their students and community.

Takeaways

Not all skilled athletes make good coaches — coaching requires distinct skills like compassion and adaptability.

Ego management in coaching — stepping aside from personal pride to meet students where they are.

Burnout prevention — the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining a balance between coaching and personal goals.

Mentorship value — having a mentor can help navigate the challenges of coaching and accelerate growth.

Impact of injury — physical limitations can affect both personal training and coaching effectiveness.

Authentic connection with students — aligning coaching goals with students’ aspirations fosters genuine growth.

Support systems — having peers or mentors helps coaches recover from setbacks like burnout or injury.

Resources

Parkour Visions — Organization focused on Parkour training and coaching.

niko@parkourvisions.org and @niko_pal on Instagram.

(Written with help from Chat-GPT.)

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And then →

Published June 6, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 6  ·  ,

You have to be myopic and completely focused and unbalanced in every way. Once you’ve achieved success, you’re free to do whatever you like.

~ Kevin O’Leary

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Ignorance →

Published June 5, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 5  ·  , , ,

There are two types of ignorance, the pure, natural ignorance into which all people are born, and the ignorance of the so-called wise. You will see that many among those who call themselves scholars do not know real life, and they despise simple people and simple things.

~ Blaise Pascal

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Provoking the powerful →

Published June 5, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 5  ·  , , ,

One reason I write here, is because I think it’s healthy for me to work with the garage door up. My choice of the guideline that herein I write about myself and things I find lying about reminds me to stick with sharing my subjective experience. Long ago I began suppressing my urge to share my opinions, and gosh, that turns out to be liberating.

This is the birth of “epistemic humility” in Western philosophy: the acknowledgment that one’s blind spots and shortcomings are an invitation for ongoing intellectual investigation and growth.

~ J. W. Traphagan and John J. Kaag from, What Socrates’ ‘know nothing’ wisdom can teach a polarized America

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The confetti gun of opinions seems always to be spewing. For a while I was concerned that my expanding humility would create a sort of power vacuum into which even more opinions of others would drift and settle. But, nope. Removing my contribution has made no difference in the fluttering mess. None the less, it’s simply nice not to feel urgency to contribute to the mess.

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June 04, 2023 — #35 →

Published June 4, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 4  ·  

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The questions →

Published June 4, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 4  ·  

The minute we begin to think we have all the answers, we forget the questions.

~ Madeleine L’Engle

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Never say never →

Published June 4, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 4  ·  

Is there a term for applying the Socratic method on oneself? Maybe, autosocraticism? Not simply self-examination or self-inquiry, but rather when you find yourself speaking with someone and realize you’ve just deployed the Socratic Method on yourself? Because this happens to me. I’m explaining something I’m thinking about, and I realize I actually don’t understand what I’m thinking about. (This is very close to “rubber duck debugging” where you can sometimes find the source of a problem by explaining it to a rubber duck. Yes, really.)

Also, a pull-quote is a self-quotation; a selection from the thing itself, presented earlier to suggest reading on is worthwhile.

And of course, I also need the past tense verb-form of that noun, just so I can write the sentence I really want to start with:

The other day I autosocratisized myself into realizing I had no freakin’ clue what the difference is between a pull-quote and a blockquote.

All of which confirms the (usually unspoken) truism about humans – we’re often wrong but never in doubt. We’re as sure of the future of our relationships as we are that 2+2=4.

~ Bob Seawright from, Proof Negative

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Never say never. I’m often wrong and frequently in doubt.

Also, a pull-quote is a self-quotation; a selection from the thing itself, presented earlier to suggest reading on is worthwhile. Versus a blockquote; something quoted from another source, but which is too large to be just dropped inline wrapped in quotation marks.

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Change, please →

Published June 3, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 3  ·  , ,

I put a dollar in one of those change machines. Nothing changed.

~ George Carlin

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Greed →

Published June 2, 2023  ·  All posts on Jun 2  ·  ,

Accursed thirst for gold! What dost thou not compel mortals to do?

~ Virgil

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