Knowledge with Kathy Cocks →

Published January 19, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 19

How can personal experiences and expertise in caregiving be shared effectively to support and educate others?

The challenge of helping families navigate aging in place transforms into a mission of sharing knowledge through podcasting.

There’s nobody for people to just go talk to sometimes just to talk things out. It’s not really a counseling thing. It’s just like, are we doing the right thing?

~ Kathy Cocks (8:23)

The conversation explores the journey of transitioning from a decade-long career as a geriatric nurse into a passion for podcasting to share experiences and knowledge about caregiving. Kathy discusses how interactions with families in their driveways revealed a need for accessible, ongoing guidance on aging and elder care, leading to the creation of a podcast addressing these challenges. The format allows for sharing personal insights, professional experiences, and practical advice to support families dealing with aging parents.

A significant portion of the discussion focuses on the emotional and logistical aspects of caregiving. Topics include family dynamics, the stigmas around aging, and the difficulty of making decisions about elder care. Kathy also highlights their goal of creating a resource library of podcast episodes on specific topics like dementia and community resources, offering a valuable tool for caregivers seeking quick, actionable insights.

Takeaways

The emotional challenges of caregiving — Acknowledging and managing the complexity of family dynamics and emotions.

The importance of accessible resources — Providing information on specific topics through short podcast episodes tailored to caregivers’ needs.

Storytelling as a tool for connection — Using personal and professional stories to educate and empower listeners.

Navigating family dynamics — Recognizing the uniqueness of each family’s situation while providing tailored advice.

Breaking down complex information — Making challenging concepts like dementia more understandable for caregivers.

The value of listening — Recognizing and addressing caregivers’ emotional needs through empathetic interaction.

Encouraging community engagement — Exploring ways to reintroduce aging individuals to social settings for improved well-being.

Resources

Alzheimer’s Association — A recommended resource for families dealing with dementia.

Knowledge for Caregivers Podcast — Kathy’s podcast focusing on various caregiving topics.

(Written with help from Chat-GPT.)

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Tolerance versus love →

Published January 19, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 19  ·  

Tolerance is becoming accustomed to injustice; love is becoming disturbed and activated by another’s adverse condition. Tolerance crosses the street; love confronts. Tolerance builds fences; love opens doors. Tolerance breeds indifference; love demands engagement. Tolerance couldn’t care less; love always cares more.

~ Cory Booker

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Tolerance →

Published January 19, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 19  ·  

Tolerance is becoming accustomed to injustice; love is becoming disturbed and activated by another’s adverse condition. Tolerance crosses the street; love confronts. Tolerance builds fences; love opens doors. Tolerance breeds indifference; love demands engagement. Tolerance couldn’t care less; love always cares more.

~ Cory Booker

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When I’m having a recorded conversation for a podcast, “being loving” or “loving the other person”, aren’t the words I’d choose. Low-brow jokes aside, it just doesn’t feel like the right word choice. Booker’s phrasing is obviously rhetoric. But there’s a reason rhetoric is like that: It works.

When I read Booker’s rhetoric I was thinking how shifting one’s context to coming from being loving changes the way I’d approach those situations. …or at least, how I might approach those situations. Changing my mindset would enable me to see opportunities I’d otherwise miss. (While still allowing me to rationally choose when it might be wise to walk by, cross the street, build a fence, get on with life, etc..)

And my new mindset—coming from being loving—made me think of a conversation I had a little while ago with Andrew Foster.

Ruh-roh, there might just be something to this “love” thing.

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PS: *gasp* I too have been misattributing “ruh-roh”, as in “ruh-roh rhaggy” to Scooby Doo. “ruh-roh” is Astro’s catch-phrase. Both dogs were voiced by the same actor though…

Effort with Ryan Flahive →

Published January 18, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 18

How does the evolution of a creative project influence its format and approach over time?

This conversation explores the transition from traditional publishing to podcasting as a medium for impactful storytelling.

As a father of two young girls who cares deeply about climate change but doesn’t have a lot of, you know, technical proficiency, I’m not an engineer; I’m not going to build a new solar panel, trying to figure out what I could do with my skill set to have an impact.

~ Ryan Flahive (0:52)

This conversation explores the shift from traditional publishing to podcasting as a means of amplifying impactful stories, particularly on climate change. Ryan reflects on his professional background in publishing and their decision to create a podcast instead of writing a book. He shares how this medium enables a more dynamic and accessible approach to storytelling while overcoming technical and logistical challenges.

Several topics emerge, including the importance of consistency in building momentum, strategies for engaging guests, and the adaptation required to balance personal interests with audience needs. The discussion highlights how leveraging past connections and experiences can ease the transition to new formats, all while navigating the complexities of content creation and audience engagement.

Takeaways

The evolution of a creative project — from idea to execution — often involves adapting to new mediums.

Storytelling in podcasting — creates a unique opportunity to engage with diverse audiences and subjects.

Consistency and cadence in podcasting — serve as a critical foundation for building momentum and maintaining an audience.

Technology challenges in podcasting — require creative problem-solving to ensure stories are heard.

Guest selection strategies — such as leveraging high-profile names early, can elevate a podcast’s credibility.

Balancing personal interests and audience needs — shapes the format and focus of a project.

The importance of community in podcasting — counters the isolation of independent creators.

Resources

Joel Salatin — A prominent figure in regenerative agriculture, mentioned as a guest on the podcast.

COP 26 — The UN Climate Change Conference where young leaders, including a Ugandan guest, participated.

Greenpeace Rainbow Warrior — A ship used to transport young leaders to climate meetings.

Jane Goodall — A renowned primatologist who was highlighted as a significant guest on the podcast.

Ryan Flahive — Ryan’s web site.

Climate Changers — Ryan’s podcast.

(Written with help from Chat-GPT.)

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Power →

Published January 18, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 18  ·  ,

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.

~ Alice Walker

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Power →

Published January 18, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 18  ·  

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.

~ Alice Walker

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Since I’m guilty of this, I often try to catch myself having power. One way I do this is to journal; If I write down, “Yesterday I did these 12 things, and people said such-and-so about my having helped them,” that’s glaring evidence that I’ve affected the world by exercising my power.

Another way I try to catch myself is to zoom farther out and look for longer-term successes. So if—for example, just sayin’, askin’ for a friend—one feels they cannot affect change in the world, but the evidence after 7 months is that one created the spark that ignited a community… well, maybe I—err, not me, my friend should stop thinking they have no power.

And instead start asking: What could I do in the next 5 minutes?

My answer: I could write one blog post which might inspire someone else!

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Framed dialogs →

Published January 17, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 17  ·  

And I mean dialog which is set up with certain agreed-upon concepts and boundaries, not literally framed for hanging on a wall.

A while back—January 4th, 2021 to be specific—I made some notes about an idea tickling my brain. I had had a conversation with two people. We had decided to get together to talk about… something. I’m not sure what. It probably was something like:

I feel like I need to talk to someone. But, I’m in this place where too many people—basically, all the people I regularly interact with—see me in a certain way. They know me in a certain context. Anything I say or do, they evaluate it as a continuation of what they know about me. That’s not a criticism of them, but simply a statement of reality.

…something like that. Not saying that’s it exactly. I’m asking for a friend. ahem.

We three hopped on a call and it didn’t really go well. We didn’t have an agenda, (which was probably a good thing). But also, we didn’t have a purpose nor clear idea of why we wanted to have the conversation. We expended an hour, (of our expected 694,700 total available,) shrugged, and moved on with our day. After my mind moved on from the experience, when I returned to thinking about the tickling idea, and the conversation, somehow I felt like the conversation had been useful. So in hindsight, it felt like the conversation was much closer to being useful, then I thought it was in the moment.

Since I’m generally interested in conversation, I scratched some notes—as I mentioned, in January a year ago—about what I thought might have been the magic: Time limit, ephemeral, minimal structure, and anticipation. Those four properties seem to be the essentials for my having felt the conversation was useful in hindsight. This isn’t about “talk therapy.” But, somehow, those features (which would be a part of a talk-therapy session) still facilitate… something.

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Slide easily →

Published January 16, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 16  ·  ,

There are two ways to slide easily through life: Namely, to believe everything, or to doubt everything; Both ways save us from thinking.

~ Alfred Korzybski

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Sliding without thinking →

Published January 16, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 16  ·  

There are two ways to slide easily through life: Namely, to believe everything, or to doubt everything; Both ways save us from thinking.

~ Alfred Korzybski

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Recently I’ve noticed several conversations where the topic of extremes has come up. I’m not certain this is new, only that my noticing it is new. The idea that we each fall somewhere on the spectrum of whatever-it-is we care to talk about is not new. And I’m absolutely not implying that moderation is always better; It is not necessarily true that the correct viewpoint is towards the middle.

What I am saying—what I’ve been recently noticing—is that the people towards the ends of the spectrum of whatever topic you care to consider are the louder people. There’s always a majority of people between the extremes, who aren’t as vocal. (Who don’t speak, write, nor post as much as those toward the extremes. “Fool and fanatics” as it were.

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Failing to consider →

Published January 15, 2022  ·  All posts on Jan 15  ·  

Failing to consider second- and third-order consequences is the cause of a lot of painfully bad decisions, and it is especially deadly when the fist inferior option confirms your own biases. Never seize on the first available option, no matter how good it seems, before you’ve asked questions and explored.

~ Ray Dalio

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