Thhhhpbt →

Published April 16, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 16

Burnout research shows that cynicism is an easy way out when we don’t have the mental resources to cope. It’s no surprise that cynicism is a core attribute of the burnout equation: during a time of ongoing stress it’s much easier to be pessimistic than it is to mobilize and make a difference.

~ Chris Bailey from, Remember: Burnout and cynicism go hand-in-hand

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That short blog post is about news-from-the-Internet and the pandemic, but it’s perfectly applicable to any source of chronic stress. For me, the chronic stress is entirely self-inflicted and the cautions remain the same.

I’ve gotten relief from myself over the years through journaling and blogging. Journalling gives me some perspective. (But it is difficult to do it well, since it can degenerate into subjectivity, navel gazing, or whining.) Blogging gives me the chance to regularly work with the garage door up; showing my work by exposing my thinking. Even if mostly no one calls me on anything, knowing that people are looking calls me to a higher quality of thinking.

Yesterday and today I’ve been thinking about taking another look at cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). A couple years ago I made a pass at understanding it—specifically wondering if one could “do it” to oneself. (Yes.) I’ve dusted off a small volume for a re-read to see what I can tune in my existing self-care routines, and hopefully find some new ones to settle into for a while.

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A sudden crash →

Published April 15, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 15  ·  ,

All human things hang on a slender thread: The strongest fall with a sudden crash.

~ Ovid

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A good argument →

Published April 15, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 15  ·  

Arguments […] can have a great deal of force for us even if, perhaps especially if, we recoil from [the] actual positions. The better the reasoning, the more [the] work requires us—if we’re going to be honest—to pick out the step where we disagree, and to see what consequences that has for the rest of our thought.

~ Stephen E. Sachs from, Why Listen to Abhorrent Speech

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I do think about this sort of thing.

In my day-to-day life, I rarely encounter something abhorrent. That’s partly because of my privileged position in life, but it’s mostly because I don’t try to overreach. I don’t try to watch “everything” or keep up with “everything” and I very emphatically do not try to have an opinion on everything. But I do, sometimes, encounter things that, while not abhorrent, rise to the level of odious. Which then makes me think, “do I want to have an argument?”

Increasingly, approaching “always” these days, I don’t feel I have the energy for a good argument. That’s not a good sign.

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Small asks →

Published April 14, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 14  ·  

The world expects that its requests will be accepted. That assignments, lunch dates, new projects, and even favors will get a yes. […] It’s just a small ask, the person thinks. Responding or reacting to incoming asks becomes the narration of your days, instead of the generous work of making your own contribution.

~ Seth Godin

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wait wat? →

Published April 14, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 14

This community’s value proposition is about more than being the Hacker News or reddit for travel. The focus is squarely on quality.

~ Anuj Adhiya from, «https://cmxhub.com/outbounding-hook-model/»

Yes, please. Based on that statement alone, I’d want to be a part of this sort of community.

The basic idea is that, to create habit-forming communities, you must move a user through a loop that over time will help them develop a habit of returning and contributing to the community. It looks like this: A trigger, internal or external, drives a user to the platform where they get some sort of variable reward, contribute something of their own, and return to the platform later for the same loop.

~ ibid.

Uhmmm… (That slight-squint with slightly-sideways, dubious look happens here.) Habituation is not, per se, a good thing. I agree that it is important to understand how what’s said there actually works; I often talk about the Oxo® handles we all have sticking out of our psyches. The ability to generate a habit in someone else is clearly one such handle.

A community comes into extence from the network of interpersonal relationships. A community isn’t, simply by its existence, a good thing. Also, if those relationships form because of habituation to come to the community space, that still doesn’t mean the community is a good thing. And we don’t even need habituation in order to form those interpersonal relationships. Yes, we may be able to “hack” those relationships into existence via habituation, but there are other ways to encourage those relationships.

I want to be part of communities that understand the nature of the interpersonal relationships, and the effect a community has as a whole. I want to be part of communities where those things are actually positive goods.

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Breathing with Lara Land →

Published April 13, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 13

How does breathing, embodiment, and connection influence podcasting and personal growth?

Exploring the intersection of embodiment and podcasting unveils unexpected insights.

It’s okay to ask a question that we’ve asked before… sometimes it’s the fifth, sixth, seventh time we hear it that it sinks in.

~ Lara Land (10:48)

The conversation examines the interplay between breathing, embodiment, and podcasting. Breathing, while central to yoga and embodiment practices, poses challenges when combined with the pacing and sentence structure needed for podcasting. The discussion highlights how these techniques differ across disciplines and the adjustments required to integrate them effectively.

The dialogue also explores personal growth through learning and practice. It touches on the struggles of early podcasting, such as question formulation and flow, and the importance of persistence. The role of nature as a restorative and learning space emerges, emphasizing its connection to personal well-being and creative processes.

Takeaways

Breathing practices — Integrating yoga breathing skills into speaking requires adapting to new contexts.

Flow in podcasting — Creating a natural conversational rhythm is a skill that develops over time.

The role of questions — Formulating unique and meaningful questions can enhance the depth of conversations.

Nature as a refuge — Spending time outdoors provides balance and inspiration for creative pursuits.

Learning frustration — The challenges of starting something new are natural but lead to growth and transformation.

Performance adjustments — Adjusting sentence structure and pacing improves podcasting presence.

Energy dynamics — Presence and energy influence the quality of conversations, especially in virtual formats.

Repetition’s value — Repeated ideas often resonate differently over time, enriching understanding.

Resources

Three and a Half Acres Yoga — A nonprofit organization using yoga for community building and trauma healing.

Mindful Nature Guide Leadership Training — A training program focused on guiding outdoor experiences.

(Written with help from Chat-GPT.)

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Shifts with Eric Ayers →

Published April 13, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 13

How can personal transformation and shifts in perspective influence creativity, community building, and personal growth?

Discover how shifting one’s perspective can lead to profound personal and professional growth.

It was a conscious shift. It was a change in my consciousness to where I can’t go back so I’m going to go forward and I’m going to bring everyone with me.

~ Eric Ayers (6:11)

The conversation explores how transformative personal experiences can lead to profound shifts in perspective and purpose. Eric reflects on his transition from viewing the world through a negative lens to embracing positivity after a pivotal conversation with his wife. This shift not only changed his approach to life but also influenced his podcasting journey, where he combines personal storytelling with interviews to inspire others.

Key themes include the power of perspective, the importance of community, and the role of persistence in achieving meaningful change. Eric also discusses his journey through self-discovery, dietary changes, and the impact of supportive relationships, highlighting the importance of celebrating small successes and nurturing growth. The conversation emphasizes how intentionality and kindness can inspire shifts in others’ mindsets.

Takeaways

Personal transformation — Small changes in perspective can lead to profound life shifts.

The power of mindset — Choosing to see the world positively transforms experiences.

Breaking patterns — Recognizing and changing destructive loops opens new opportunities.

Community impact — Stories and connections foster growth and collaboration.

Persistence — Success often comes through repeated effort and resilience.

Support systems — Relationships and external encouragement catalyze personal growth.

Creativity in podcasting — Combining formats like interviews and personal narratives can create unique content.

Meditation — Reducing mental noise allows for reflection and self-awareness.

Language matters — Positive self-talk reinforces constructive growth.

Resources

Purpose Empowered Podcast — A podcast focusing on impactful personal stories.

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s works) — Discussing transitioning from thinking to doing to being.

Louise Hay’s teachings — Influencing the guest’s understanding of conscious shifts. URL: https://www.louisehay.com

(Written with help from Chat-GPT.)

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Playfulness →

Published April 13, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 13  ·  ,

To be playful is not to be trivial or frivolous, or to act as if nothing of consequence will happen. On the contrary, when we are playful with one another, we relate as free persons, and the relationship is open to surprise; everything that happens is of consequence, for seriousness is a dread of the unpredictable outcomes of open possibility. To be serious is to press for a specified conclusion. To be playful is to allow for unlimited possibility.

~ James Carse

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A random proof →

Published April 13, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 13  ·  

Here’s how I do things.

GIVEN…

  • I have a book that has 2,000 pages. (Curiously, it is exactly 2,000 pages.)
  • Life is finite, (and probably also “short.”)
  • It’s unlikely I can get through it front-to-back; I’d like to read as many pages as I can.
  • I’m a systems guy; I want to figure something out once and then never think about that same problem again.
  • I have a personal task management system; It can easily remind me to do things however I’d prefer.

I WISH, that I had an easy way to get a random page number. This strikes me as very easy to build. Therefore, because it is easy, because Internet, and because humans are awesome…

THEN, such a thing must already exist.

THEREFORE, I guessed, “!random”, would exist in my favorite search engine—here, you’re welcome—and quickly found my way to this: https://www.random.org/clients/http/

QED (Quite easily done, yes; But, no.)

All that remains is to skim their simple API docs, and then type this simple URL: https://www.random.org/integers/?num=1&min=1&max=2000&base=10&format=html&col=1

This enables me to create a repeating task which has that URL. I click the link, and flip to that page. You’re thinking, “holy shit no.” And I’m thinking, “tiny building blocks, well placed, get shit done.”

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Interior stability →

Published April 12, 2022  ·  All posts on Apr 12  ·  

To listen is very hard, because it asks of us so much interior stability that we no longer need to prove ourselves by speeches, arguments, statements or declarations. True listeners no longer have an inner need to make their presence known. They are free to receive, welcome, to accept.

~ Henri Nouwen

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